Piano Keys for Parents - Six Laws for Supporting Your Child in Piano Lessons

The Law of Focus - What we focus on gets ourTo do this, remember that your child is a different
attention.character than you are! View him or her as an
At the beginning of the piano journey, like any new andindividual, and give them the resources needed to
exciting adventure, our energy and enthusiasm levelsdevelop their musical potential.
are high. As parents, our focus is solely on helping ourThe Law of Perspective - Not all complaining is
children achieve their piano dreams. Writing down themeaningful.
goals and dreams that first motivated you to give yourJust because your child whines about practicing,
child the gift of piano lessons provides a reminder thatdoesn't necessarily mean that they don't like piano or
will keep your energy focused over the long term.want to learn to play. It just means they're human, like
The Law of Commitment - Commitment is the gluethe rest of us. Sometimes I don't feel like cooking, but I
that holds our priorities in tact.like to be creative in the kitchen. By redirecting my
Start by committing to provide the financial resourcesfocus to what's important to me - my family and the
necessary to ensure your child's piano efforts are notvalue of sitting down to a meal together - I gather
in vain. In addition to lessons, this includes the purchaseenergy to accomplish my goal and enjoy the reward.
of an adequate piano or keyboard to learn on.When your child complains about practicing, redirect
The Law of Encouragement - Follow the Rule oftheir focus to their goals - why they wanted to learn to
"Seven to One."play the piano in the first place! Was it the pianist they
Give your child seven encouragements to everylistened to with delight at a concert? Or was it a friend
critique. And remember, if you use the word "but" inor relative who plays piano well and inspired them to
your sentence, it doesn't count. Here are a fewwant to learn? This will help your child find motivation
examples you shouldn't try to follow. "She practices,and redirect their energy to piano again.
but not enough!" "He plays, but only what he enjoys!"The Law of Fun! - It's fun to keep your sense of
"She likes music, but she can't sing a note!" Statementshumor :-D!
like they aren't effective. Here's the message pianoThe point of music is to lift the spirit. My students often
students need to hear -- "Your effort matters and itwant to be a little silly at their lessons and let some of
makes a difference." This is accomplished better withtheir creativity out. I can't even count the number of silly
pure encouragement. For example, "Cool! I like the waysongs I've made up during lessons. Use piano as a
you..... (Period, end of sentence.)" Use and instead ofway to connect with your child and have more fun
but. For example, "I really like listening to you play, and Itogether! Over the long run, adding creative fun into the
never get tired of hearing you practice!" "Wow! Thatmix of hard work, courage and persistence is the best
piece is sounding really spiffy, and it just keeps gettingway for students to achieve piano success.
better! By the recital it's going to be awesome!"There you have it, Piano Parents - The keys to the
The Law of Character - The best way to lovePiano Kingdom. Now go out and support your child in
children is with character.piano!